Co-Sleeping - the magic, the mystery, the mayhem

Apr 9, 2014

I know little about parenting, really, like almost nothing but I always tell people your first child is like your guinea pig child, your science experiment, just a bunch of trial and error. You have no idea what to expect. You are like a moth to a flame when it comes to information. You ask family members, read books, stop a nice looking grandmother at the Target check out just to pick her brain. You are clueless! At least, that is how I felt with Ace. I was 22 and had no one around me who had kids. I lived in a different state so help from family was not always a realistic option. I tried going off of instincts, but my instincts were thrown off sometimes by the weight of my college classes. So I listened to other people telling me what they did with their kids...BIG MISTAKE! As a mom it is good to bounce ideas off of one another, seek advice, but that doesn't mean it will work for you and your baby. This held true for me.
With Ace I did not initially start out co-sleeping, people around me told me it was bad. My pediatrician at the time frowned upon it. So I listened, I put him in his bassinet in our room for the first couple months and then moved him to his crib in his room after that. I hated it, I complained to Chris all the time that all I do is wake up and go check on him. So we moved the crib into our room. That wasn't good enough for my paranoia. I still would get up and make sure his little chest was moving up and down.....

Finally by the time he was about a year old I said forget this shit and brought him in bed with us. For us, this was perfection! We all slept so much better. It was just so easy, it was so comforting. I questioned why I didn't do this from day one!

Now fast forward to Pierce, and he stayed in bed with me until just about a month before Avalon was born. We loved it! And it was more of his choice to start sleeping in his own bed because he wanted to sleep with Ace. So to start the transition off we would let them sleep together in their room. This worked great because by this time I had Avalon in bed with me. For me, there has never been a rhyme or reason behind co-sleeping. I never did any research on it, I could care less about the science behind attachment parenting, or detachment parenting, or ball and chain parenting....what have you. I just do it because I like it. I sleep better knowing my little babe is right next to me.
I have always done nap time in their crib so that they have some sense of independence. But I am not ready to pull the trigger on Avalon just yet. When people find out we co-sleep the first question they ask is does your husband get annoyed? I would have to say no, he is gone more than he is home. I think he finds comfort in it as well, and he knows that I will constantly be getting up if we didn't co-sleep. I have a habit of bringing all the kids in my bed when Chris is gone for longer periods of time.  I will say that there are rough nights, teething nights, sick nights, and on those nights Chris will get up and go sleep in the guest room because he has to be up early and the sound of a crying baby doesn't really lull him to sleep. There is a lot of acrobatics that goes into co-sleeping, feet in your face, or your back, a random slap in the face my a flying arm, or a swift karate chop to the neck. There is lots of horizontal sleeping. Some nights Avalon has to have 63.7% of her body on mine at all times. Other nights our room resembles a chinese fire drill. But we like it, no really we do! 

Do I think co-sleeping is for everyone? Absolutely not, neither is natural childbirth, breastfeeding, homeschooling, bottle feeding, cloth diapers, diet coke, the real housewives. But like my good friend Britney Spears once said "its my prerogative"(well bobby said it first but lets not get technical). 

How do you feel about co-sleeping? Like it, love it, never tried it, just say no? Lemmeknow! This stuff genuinely interests me...... 


20 comments:

  1. Love this! We co-slept until I weaned my youngest at age two. Now the kids sleep across the hall, but I lay down with them until they fall asleep, and if they wake up at night, they usually get in bed with us. I'm sure I got much more sleep co-sleeping than I would have if I was up 98273498723 times every night when they were babies. But I'm also loving not having feet in my face. :-)

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    1. I can totally relate. I am sure once it all comes to an end I will enjoy being able to spread out in my own bed. But for now, it is nice.

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    2. I can totally relate. I am sure once it all comes to an end I will enjoy being able to spread out in my own bed. But for now, it is nice.

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  2. YAY for co sleeping! Maddie doesn't even nap in her crib. Emma co-slept with us until almost one year. Maddie will probably be the same.

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  3. I like your take on this! I was that paranoid mom too so I understand that feeling. My kid prefers sleeping in his own bed which is hard on me!
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    1. My boys much rather sleep in their beds, but every once in awhile they will come in bed with me and I love it. My daughter on the other hand won't budge when it comes to night time snoozing!

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  4. I love co-sleeping! It made life so much easier for my husband and I. As first time parents we tried to do everything by the book, but we quickly learned that we had to set our own rules and guidelines when it comes to parenting.

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    1. I am with ya! With my my first I tried to listen to the people around me who already had kids. The things they were telling me appeared to work for them. Or even family members had their input, but in the end we had to do what was best for us. I think all parents get to that point.

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  5. Obviously everyone is going to have differing opinions, as long as you and the kids are happy that is all that matters. :)

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  6. I have a strict "Don't cross the line in the middle of the bed" policy for my husband. Feel free to ask him how serious I am about it...SERIOUS. I do NOT liked to be cuddled and have to fall asleep through tossing and turning. So obviously for me, co-sleeping is completely out of the question. Sometimes I think it would be nice to bring Ais in bed with us when she's sick but then the reality hits me, and I know I would just take her back to her crib so I could get some much needed sleep.

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  7. Kyle and I both love having Mallory sleep with us! Of course we didn't start out co-sleeping but it ended up being how Mal sleeps best at night. When Mal sleeps, Mom and Dad sleep. WIN! (Mallory naps in her crib)

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  8. I don't think I was an official cosleeper per se...but Letty slept in bed with us almost every night from 1 am on. Until David was born. She just was such a pain! David has never slept for a second in bed with us. He's just different. I feel ya though I still get up at least once a night to check their breathing. I just can't wrap my brain around cosleeping and "relations". I have the maturity of a 12 year old boy.

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  9. I don't have any kids yet (unless dogs count! ;) but my parents coslept with my sister and I when we were little. I feel that it depends on the child really. Not every child is the same and if it works for you, then no one else should judge!

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  10. I love co-sleeping. I'm pretty sure it's the reason we're all still alive. V was in bed with us within a week so that she could just latch in the middle of the night. Adri was in my bed before we even left the hospital. John's step mom scared me into thinking I would never get them out of the bed, but it was actually pretty easy. I'm having trouble now that Adri is working her way back into our bed during the night. She's a kicker.

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  11. I'm not a mommy yet, but I sometimes catch myself thinking about these types of things and what my husband and I are going to end up doing. Like you said, you can only take other people's advice so far...every family is different so you gotta do what's best for you guys! :)

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  12. Lilly has never wanted to sleep with us, ever. I'm not gonna lie, it kinda breaks my heart. There's a part of me that wishes she would snuggle in bed with us at night.

    And let's be honest... the Real Housewives should be everyone's prerogative.

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    1. Aww, the grass is always greener right? You are lucky that she likes her independence! And totally agree anyone who doesn't enjoy those housewives shouldn't be trusted! Ha! :)

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  13. I co slept with my son while my husband was deployed and loved it. I still love when he sneaks in bed in the mornings. Never co slept with my daughter so when I try to catch some more sleep if she ever wakes up early, forget about it! She thinks my bed is a giant toy. Doh!

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  14. I co-slept for a while. My boyfriend never felt comfortable with it, so I slept with my son in a different bed. I did it mostly out of necessity to sleep. Now he sleeps in his crib at night time, but I still co-sleep at nap time. For some reason he sleeps way longer if I am next to him for naps. I don't mind it because it give me a chance to unwind a bit mid-day and I also get the snuggles that I miss from co-sleeping. I just can't do it for nighttime sleep because I am a terrible sleeper and I have to move a lot and I just never slept well with him in the bed with me. So for me I get the best of both worlds and I love it!

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  15. I co-sleeped with my girl for the first 3 months and put her in her crib after that. I'm a 100% believer that mama knows best. and other people's opinions don't matter if it doesn't feel right to you . Your babies are so so adorbs!! http://likeamorningcupofcoffee.blogspot.com/

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