me, myself, and mom guilt

May 22, 2014


Mom guilt is alive and kicking right? At some points it consumes you. It comes in all different situations and different times. I know I am constantly asking myself, was I really a good mom today? A lot of the times that answer is no, I spent too much time worrying about the laundry, or checking my phone, or being annoyed when asked to play dinosaurs for the 100th time that day. I hate that feeling. When you are laying there at night wishing that you could just have a do-over for the day. I always tell myself...I'll make up for it tomorrow. But there really isn't a rain check on being a parent. 

Or what about all the times I wish I had just a day to myself, just hours to myself where I could do whatever I wanted to do. Eat a meal without standing up, or having to share it with three hungry hippos? Is that wrong? No I am human, but it does make you feel pretty crappy when in reality all your kids want to do is spend time with you. 

I think my biggest knock down drag out fight with mom guilt came when I got pregnant with Pierce. Ace was 10 months old, and I had the hardest time feeling incredibly happy about being pregnant. I kept thinking, is this the right time? Will Ace hate me forever for having to share my attention? Does he even want a sibling? I mean its not like we consulted him before we tried for number two. And the biggest and most pressing question....I am fully capable of loving two babies? Clearly the answer is yes considering we added number three not long after. But those thoughts kept me up at night. 

I don't think mom guilt will ever go away. I mean we care so much about these little humans. Do they drive us crazy, hell to the yes. Do they leave us longing for wine thirty at the end of a stressful tantrum filled day? Yep. There are times I am counting down the minutes to bed time so I can just sit and hear nothing but the sound of silence all around me. And I will be the first to admit I know little about parenting, almost nothing really. But I do know that as long as I have their best interest at heart, and that I reciprocate the unconditional love they give me, and lets be real, those little suckers radiate love when they aren't screaming. Then I should be able to rest a little easier at night.


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May 8:          Taming the Temper Tantrums
May 15:        Weaning from Breastfeeding or From Formula to Cow’s Milk 
May 22:        Dealing with Mommy Guilt
May 29:        When People Share Their Opinions and How to Lovingly Handle it
June 5:         Traveling with your Toddler
June 12:       How to get your toddler to eat their veggies…or their food at all
June 19:       How to make time to blog in the busyness of motherhood
June 26:       Bedtime Battles (nap or bedtime)

11 comments:

  1. We are all doing the best we can, and we are all doing a great job. A perfect mother doesn't exist...why does mommy guilt lead us to believe this? Thanks for sharing your story. It is truly encouraging to know we are all in this together.

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    1. Thanks, Lauren! I agree, no perfection is coming from this household, just mild dysfunction :) haha

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  2. You are a great mom! I love that you can even talk openly like this. I think that makes you an even better mom. I think most moms I know have counted down minutes to bed time just for silence. It really is golden. I feel ya on this on though girl. I mostly feel it in relation to school stuff. Learning her letters or counting. She's suchhhh a bad student I sometimes don't feel like fighting her on it.

    And you've got three awesome healthy kids. You got this. ;)

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  3. It's funny the scenarios that mommy guilt dreams up! Like whether or not Ace whats a sibling. And you're right, it will probably never go aways *sigh* :)

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  4. I read this right after I texted my husband that today is a bottle of wine at dinner kinda day. I blogged today about what a terror my second child is too. Ahhh....the struggle is real!

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    1. Totally real! I will cheers you at dinner time :)

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  5. So beautifully said. That last line really says it all. Love this!

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  6. Are you a good mom?? Hell to the yes!! You're amazing!
    I tell you what, mom guilt doesn't get to me now but I have no doubt that when I'm pregnant with my second I will have major guilt (until that babe is born) just stressing about the what ifs.

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  7. You are an awesome momma and those kiddos are so lucky!

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  8. It helps me just to read other moms write about this, because I feel guilty a lot for having these same feelings. Like damn, I was glued to the phone today or why do I look forward to bedtime so much??? Cause it's not like we don't fiercely love our kids but yeah, the overwhelmingness of everything can get to you sometimes!

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  9. Definitely not looking forward to mommy guilt, because I KNOW that it's going to happen to me all the time. But it's nice to know, I'm sure, that you're not alone in these types of feelings!

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