it stings more than a bucket of ice

Aug 25, 2014

I am sure by now everyone has seen the Ice Bucket Challenge that is sweeping the nation, taking over your Facebook feeds (I don't have Facebook though), posted videos to Instagram, the list can go on. I can say that for us the "ice bucket challenge" is a challenging reminder of the loss in our lives. Chris's mom lost her battle with ALS earlier this year. I never said anything about it because I felt like it made it that much more real. I wanted to be to be strong for Chris, I wanted to support him in anyway that I could. My mother in law was, is, always will be the most amazing woman I could have ever asked for to be in my life. There was not a mean bone in her body, she never said a bad thing about anything or anyone. And to be honest I have never seen a mom love her son the way she loved Chris. 
When she was diagnosed with ALS it was like all of our hearts got ripped out. We were not very educated on the disease, and were naive enough the think that there is no way. She is so young, she is not your typical patient with this disease. This just cannot be right. That is the thing with ALS, it does not discriminate. There is no cure, essentially it is a death sentence. The most horrible disease I have ever seen. It was hard everyday to be so far away, Chris began to close off from us, and rightfully so. It was hard to put on a brave face in front of him, or even when talking to her through text or FaceTime. But she always had a smile on her face, or would crack a joke. We found so much comfort knowing that her husband, and Chris's sister were there with her everyday taking care of her. The disease progressed so fast in her case, it was a year from the time she was diagnosed to when she passed. She was always there for me, no matter what time of day. She talked to me all the time when Chris was deployed when she hadn't even met me yet. When Chris would go away for training she would come stay with me for weeks at a time. She was there for me when I had Pierce and Chris was in OCS. I could write a hundred posts about this woman, and feel like it will never do her justice. Her life was nothing short of an HBO drama, yet she held her head high. With so much poise and grace! 

It is hard to even formulate a complete sentence at this point, so I guess all I can say is that if you are taking the ice bucket challenge, have taken it, want to take it, save your water and ice. Make some lemonade and just donate to The ALS Association. There are very limited drugs that can prolong a patients life by a only a few months. I know my family would have lived in a bucket of ice if that meant Christopher got a few more months to be with his mom. 



18 comments:

  1. So, so, sad. I am very sorry for your guys' loss.
    My Uncle has ALS and it's such a devastating disease.

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  2. I am so sorry for y'all's loss. She sounds like such an amazing woman, and I'm glad that you got a chance to have her in your life...even it was too short of a time.

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    1. Thank you Hana. And yes, too short of a time is right.

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  3. You were so lucky to have someone like her in your life. My uncle passed away from ALS a few years back and I had the same thoughts on the ice bucket challenge as you; however, I do see that it has raised a lot of awareness for the disease and it has helped to raise a whole lot of money to find a cure or a better treatment!!!

    So sorry for the loss your family suffered at the hands of this horrible disease! *hugs*

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  4. So sorry to hear this, Kelsey! Praying for your family as you all grieve.

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  5. What a beautiful post, Kelsey. Thank you for your courage in posting it. I cannot imagine your family's pain, but you're in our prayers!

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  6. This post is amazing. I commend your courage to share it. Sending my thoughts to you all. Hugs!

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  7. This is terrible! I am so sorry for your family's loss.

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  8. Kelsey, this picture is amazing of Chris and Cheryl. I am putting it in a gorgeous frame. Chance and Hana have done the ice-bucket challenge and I donted for them, $20 each. KD and I are donating too. We will always donate to the ALS Cause, forever, in Cheryl's honor. Love Mom

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  9. I am so sorry for your loss. How terrible. What a wonderful woman she was! I'm so glad that something as silly as dumping ice water on a persons head has raised such awareness and so many funds.

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  10. I'm so sorry for your loss. I think the challenge is silly and would much rather see people just donate money but making a video of me writing a check isn't very interesting I guess.

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  11. I'm so sorry for your loss. ALS is a horrible disease, and I have known a couple of people who have had it. I don't have a problem with people dumping ice water, but only if they are also donating.

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  12. Thanks for sharing Kelsey! This makes me teary; I can't imagine the loss ♥️

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  13. Oh Kelsey, my heart breaks for you, Chris, and your entire families. I can only imagine how seeing all of the ice bucket challenge posts made you all feel...just a reminder of what was taken from you too early. I pray that you're strengthened during the time of remembrance, and that someday this disease will have a cure. So sorry for your loss girl.

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  14. so sorry for your loss, ALS is awful.

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