Aug 25, 2014
I am sure by now everyone has seen the Ice Bucket Challenge that is sweeping the nation, taking over your Facebook feeds (I don't have Facebook though), posted videos to Instagram, the list can go on. I can say that for us the "ice bucket challenge" is a challenging reminder of the loss in our lives. Chris's mom lost her battle with ALS earlier this year. I never said anything about it because I felt like it made it that much more real. I wanted to be to be strong for Chris, I wanted to support him in anyway that I could. My mother in law was, is, always will be the most amazing woman I could have ever asked for to be in my life. There was not a mean bone in her body, she never said a bad thing about anything or anyone. And to be honest I have never seen a mom love her son the way she loved Chris.
When she was diagnosed with ALS it was like all of our hearts got ripped out. We were not very educated on the disease, and were naive enough the think that there is no way. She is so young, she is not your typical patient with this disease. This just cannot be right. That is the thing with ALS, it does not discriminate. There is no cure, essentially it is a death sentence. The most horrible disease I have ever seen. It was hard everyday to be so far away, Chris began to close off from us, and rightfully so. It was hard to put on a brave face in front of him, or even when talking to her through text or FaceTime. But she always had a smile on her face, or would crack a joke. We found so much comfort knowing that her husband, and Chris's sister were there with her everyday taking care of her. The disease progressed so fast in her case, it was a year from the time she was diagnosed to when she passed. She was always there for me, no matter what time of day. She talked to me all the time when Chris was deployed when she hadn't even met me yet. When Chris would go away for training she would come stay with me for weeks at a time. She was there for me when I had Pierce and Chris was in OCS. I could write a hundred posts about this woman, and feel like it will never do her justice. Her life was nothing short of an HBO drama, yet she held her head high. With so much poise and grace!
It is hard to even formulate a complete sentence at this point, so I guess all I can say is that if you are taking the ice bucket challenge, have taken it, want to take it, save your water and ice. Make some lemonade and just donate to The ALS Association. There are very limited drugs that can prolong a patients life by a only a few months. I know my family would have lived in a bucket of ice if that meant Christopher got a few more months to be with his mom.