Our normal, but what's normal anyway?

Sep 8, 2014

Growing up I felt like I had a pretty normal family life. Both my mom and stepdad worked, but they were still heavily involved in me and my four siblings' lives. Dinners as a family were pretty routine, having both parents at a horse show or cheerleading competition was the standard. Business trips would come up, but my parents were never gone for very long, and they were always in constant contact to make sure we were staying out of trouble. I felt like this was the same routine for many of my friends families growing up as well.
That is until I found a new idea of normal, as a military family. Our norm is that no two weeks look alike. For the most part our free time is scheduled around Chris's schedule, and then usually rescheduled a few times before it all comes to fruition. We run on the idea of soaking up as much time as a family as we can before another "business trip" works its way onto the calendar. Our kids are well versed in the reintegration process. We just happen to be one family out of so many that live a different lifestyle.
Before I had kids I always wondered how families handled the frequent separations. How moms and dads didn't just lose their minds. I mean maybe I have lost some of mine! But to keep my sanity I have found that we have to function the same whether Chris is here or not. We have to do the same things, make an attempt at keeping the same routine, even if bedtime may be pushed later and later, and maybe there is an evening snack thrown in there far too often (can you say smores?). But for the most part I try to keep our days the same. We still go to turf time, have park dates, engage in a little fort building, and movies nights just like when the fun parent is around. When I run out of things to do I have to ask myself "what would Chris do?".
Avalon really capitalized on having a variety of snacks to choose from, but out of Graham Crackers, Teddy Grahams, and the new Grahamfuls....she is a Gramhamfuls fan all the way! Nothing like some chocolate and peanut butter sandwiched between some Graham Crackers. 

Sometimes the separations feel never-ending, the days are long when there is no phone call to anticipate. But I can't help but think about how Chris feels when he leaves. Knowing that when he comes back the kids may have learned something new, he may have missed a swim lesson or five, the kids may even look a little bigger. It is hard for him to feel like he is missing out, but the second he gets home it is like he was never gone. We pick up where time was paused. To us it isn't about the time spent apart, it is about the memories made together.

Whether we are together under one roof, or thinking about the fun we will have the next time we are together, we have a lot of love within this crazy bunch. Which is why Honey Maids This is Wholesome campaign and video really resonated with me.  It is all about the love and lasting memories of when a family is all together. 

Disclosure: This post was sponsored by Honey Maid through their partnership with POPSUGAR. While I was compensated by POPSUGAR to write a post about Honey Maid, all opinions are my own.


  1. I really don't know how you do it. But I applaud you all.

  2. It's tough when your spouse is away for awhile...I don't know how you do it on a regular basis. You're a strong woman!

  3. Great post. Wholesome is what makes a family happy, no matter what shape, size or routine it comes in. You do such a great keeping your family "real", 24/7!

  4. I love this, you are an amazing military family!

  5. We left our kids with friends for the entire weekend while we attended a wedding. On our way home on Sunday, I missed them SO much. I told Nick, "I don't know how you do it when you leave our kids for deployments, training, etc. etc. I am going on 3 days here, and I am going nuts because I miss them so much!!".

  6. You're such a great mama and wife.. really an inspiration to all MilSo's

  7. You are an amazing mom and wife, I don't know how you do it! But I agree with what you said about how your husband must feel. Whenever Steve is gone on long jobs I always feel worse for him missing out on time with our kids than for myself.

    Sidenote...are you talking about turf time at the Menard Center in Wasilla? Or something in Eagle River...

    1. Thanks Whitney! And yes we go to the one in Eagle River!!



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