a hope for my children

Nov 14, 2014

After we found out we were adding another little girl to this family I couldn't help but stay up that night thinking about how perfect it turned out. Not that a boy wouldn't be just as wonderful, but now we have the two boys close in age and the two girls close in age. Built in best friends for life is what I told Chris. And truly that is what I hope for all of them. That they grow up with this undeniable closeness that can only be brought about by siblings. I want them to rely on one another, protect each other, and love each other unconditionally. Obviously that is a lofty goal, I grew up in a blended family. My brother is 18 months older than me and my sister is five years younger. When my parents each got remarried they had more children, significantly younger than us. We loved growing up in the chaos of it all, a big family no matter what house you were at that day or weekend. But we are not close with each other. We go days, weeks, months without talking to each other on the phone. It has been years since some of us have seen each other. And I can't say this is a new thing, even growing up we just weren't close. We had our own interests, friends, and schedules. Nothing really went together. We went to different schools, and we all had developed our own opinions on the family dynamic. This isn't to say we didn't still fight at the dinner table. Or argue about who was riding in the front seat. Or my sister stealing my curling iron. All the normal sibling things happened, except the bond. Now we have all drifted, finding "family" in our friends. Developing a closeness with others and not each other. We are all still incredibly close with my mom, she is probably the only thing that keeps us all in the loop with one another. 

I can say for me I am in a different position than they are, married, kids kids and more kids, and I move every few years. It is hard to keep up with this circus. But if there is one thing I want my kids to get out of this military lifestyle is that sense that no matter where we are we are family. No matter how many schools you go to, your brothers and sisters will be there too. You will all be the "new kids" together. I hope this brings them even closer and instills that your loyalties lie with your family first. Call it the Italian in me, but family is held high in my mind. Chris is on the same wavelength. He more than anyone wants to make sure our children are there for one another. I think that is why we had them so close was so they could relate to one another more. Three of them will be in high school together (pray for me now). I know there will be blow out fights, they will differ in opinions on many things. They will say hurtful words to each other. But my hope and dream for them is to be able to rise above it all because they are brothers and sisters. There may even be periods where they don't talk. But my hope is that they will carry on our family traditions with their own families some day, but that they share in all those experiences together. 

I know this is all crazy mama thoughts going on here, but that's what I'm paid in diapers and wipes for right? To worry, hope, dream, and protect these amazing little people in my life. I want them to do the same for each other. This new little baby is already so loved and obsessed over my her older siblings that I can't wait for them to hold her. I can't wait to see these four little personalities around the dinner table. Or better yet some road trips....because that always brings out the angel in everyone!


11 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. Your kiddos are so lucky to have such a fabulous mommy! Have a great weekend.

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  2. This is such a great post. I'm sure most parents look at their kids and wonder and hope the same things. I know I do. And I mean. La familia am I right? So exciting to watch them interact and grow together.

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  3. SO so exciting :) When I tell people we want 5 kids they think we're absolutely nuts. I tell them, "Good thing you won't be raising them"!!! I like chaos and reasons not to shower, anyway.

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    1. Ha! You will get both of those with just one kid! haha!

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  4. I love this post, such a wonderful Mother's perspective! :)

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  5. Love this! My sisters and I are close in age {four of us in 5 years} and very closely bonded. We see each other at least once a week, and we are usually texting or emailing in between times. I don't have my own kids yet, but I've thought about this very same thing - I want my kids to live and fight and love together when they're young so it will be that much more awesome when they are grown. I'm glad I'm not {entirely} crazy or alone in hoping for this.
    P.S. Congrats on another girl! :)

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    1. That is awesome!! I hope all mine are super close. 4 in 5 years will be our timeline as well :)

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  6. Aww! They have a great start with you as their mama! I can only hope for the same for my girls!

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  7. I love this post for so many reasons. I always tell Nick that we'll always be the "newbies" together. My kids are 4 years apart, and my fear was that they were so far apart in age that they wouldn't really get that special bond, but they prove me wrong every day!

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    1. The thinks us mama's worry about! ;)

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  8. Love this. I am not close to my sister at all, and I really hope the girls will be close.

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