what's your number?

Dec 4, 2014

Of kids that is....

Now that my bump is out in full force, I get some major looks from people when I am out with all three kids + the bump of course. When the whole family went out to do the Thanksgiving shopping we had Pierce and Avalon in the cart with Ace walking beside, Chris pushing, and me well semi-waddling right along. A lovely man near the eggs stopped me and said "wow you are really starting your own army", I said "yep only to eventually take over the world". His eyes just got really big. But it all got me thinking, as most things do. 

When you announce your first pregnancy family, friends, and strangers cannot stop telling you congratulations. They tell you how wonderful your life is about to become. What a blessing you have in your belly. They just smile when they see you, it is all very glorious. Then of course the conversation turns as you near the end to, sleep, just sleep until you start feeling contractions. Watch movies, relax. They put the fear of God in you that your life is about to be turned upside down, you will never sleep again, nor will you have sex. I mean the craziness. 

But then you announce your second pregnancy (see you and your husband indeed were intimate). Those same family members and friends are so excited. They are even more excited for your first born. Oh he will have a playmate how wonderful. Two is so great! Oh but man, the work. Two is more than one, (you don't say). Strangers still look at you with a smile in the grocery store check out, many will tell you about their two grand kids. And two is great! Two is incredibly fun, I loved watching Ace change into his big brother role. Two.....a nice solid even number. 

Oh but wait 10 months later you announce you are pregnant with number three. You look to your family and friends to have that same amount of enthusiasm, some do, some are like weren't you just pregnant? Still, everything is doable. Grocery shopping is a little bit of a juggling act, sometimes one kid wonders and you have to stop everything and find them. Musical car seats is a fun game that you will play. The nap time scramble is another one of my favs. But three, people still think three is great. Sane. Even your OB is like, three is a good number. Was that a hint? 

BUT THEN you announce you are having baby number four! When you tell family and friends they kind of pause at first and then say something surprising like, what! really? are you guys nuts? I mean yay congratulations! Your family just might start emailing you links to articles explaining that it costs $245,000 to raise a child nowadays (we plan on robbing a bank and then fleeing the country.....kidding. Or am I?). People may even come out and say, "you guys do know how this happens right?", yes we are very aware! Then when you tell people that it was planned! Oh my goodness, they want to take you in for a psych evaluation. You mean you planned to have four kids in five years? That is correct. The greatest was picking up a box or two of pregnancy tests with all three kids. The girl at the checkout looked at the box, then looked at me, then looked at the box again. I almost went with the whole "oh they are for a friend" bit, but come on, look at me. Clearly I like a baby or four in my life. 

By far the best was my OB appointment this week where all three of my little sidekicks accompanied me in the wee hours of 8:00 am. Another woman walked into the waiting room and counted out loud, "1, 2, 3, and.....four? Are they all yours?" No, I just like picking up random children before the sun comes up and dragging them to a small area where one will exclaim "wow you weigh a lot" (even though he can't read the scale). 

Yes, they are all mine! They were all planned and thought out. They were all an amazing surprise when that plan came to fruition. I know that everyone has a number, or has thought about how many they want to have if given the choice. If it were all just that easy. If money fell from the sky and I could stay home with 10 kids I probably would. Our number has been four, it was four before we said I do. It was four as close together as we could get them. And four feels right for us.

Could you imagine if we announced a number five?



15 comments:

  1. When we got married, Hubs wanted 4, I wanted 3. He came home from deployment to a 13 month old and was like "um, maybe 2?" Now, we're pregnant with 3 and he's like "4 would be so fun you know!" LOL we'll see I guess.

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  2. Imagine what the duggars feel like? ;) I feel like two is "normal" and anything above is a "big" family and people just don't do that anymore. If we could get pregnant easier, if we were younger, if we had a wee bit more money, our number would be four too. I came from four and I love four. But that's not in the cards for us. Four is a great number. People need to keep their opinions to themselves. I've been getting a lot of oh my you'll have your hands full! You'll be so busy! And I'm like. Yeah. Clearlyyyyyy. If I wanted a simple life I would be childless. The more the merrier! ;)

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  3. I had a huge comment in here and it deleted oddly. It's the iPhone. Imagine what the duggar' feel like? ;)

    I like four. If we could get pregnant easily and had more money and weren't the age we are we would go for four. Four is a perfect number in my opinion. I think nowadays people are just having smaller families. Generally speaking. Which is sad. Kids are such a gift.

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  4. My number is 0. Because I like naps. If I ever have one on accident would you consider taking them on and having 5? I mean, it's what a good friend would do. YOU'RE A GOOD FRIEND AREN'T YOU?!

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  5. I love how everyone has opinions, however all that matters is that you all are happy with the number you have. :)

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  6. People are so annoying with their opinions. Just like I'm sure you heard "are you going to try for a girl?" after the boys. I get asked if we will try for a boy, because there's totally techniques to make that happen! *Side eye* But I also get told 2 is such a perfect number, you don't need more. But I WANT more.

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  7. At least yall sticked to your plan!!! I didn't want any, and zero was agreed upon when we got married. We were both active duty and kids was not an option with all the deployments and stuff we had both planned on doing. Then one came along by accident....then two....then we made things...umm...permanent so we can't have any more. We are a two family!

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    1. See there is a number that feels juuuust right for everyone! :)

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  8. I'm the oldest of four, and growing up the size of our family was always a blast :o) We were really close, and there was always something going on and the house never got too quiet. Cheers to four!!

    Erica at www.offdeadline.com

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  9. Your post brought back many memories...oh those comments...some funny, some downright rude. Like you, we welcomed every one of our children...often to the shock and awe of others. They were loved and nurtured & are grown now- very loving & close knit. We still giggle about their antics growing up. Now we are making memories with our grandchildren. What fun!

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  10. I hate when people comment on number of kids...it feels so intrusive! I have two (but want several more!) and I always get the comment "Oh a boy and a girl! You can be done now!" Umm what? Just plain rude.

    www.bestofbabylady.blogspot.com

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    1. I can totally relate! When we had just our two boys everyone said "you have to go for a girl". When we announced we were pregnant they seemed surprised. I'd have a butt load of kids if money and the military life were no factors.

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  11. I LOVE this post! All so true!! Although I only have one so haven't experienced this first hand, I know that I have come across it. It always seems like less of a celebrations the more kids you have... I mean we should celebrate each little miracle as much as the first. :) Congratulations again, you're going to have a beautiful "little army" of Children and they are going to grow up and always have each other. What a beautiful gift.

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    1. I totally agree Tawnya, I think we have gotten even more excited with each pregnancy. You kind of know what to expect and you know that once the nine months is over and done with your heart will grow even bigger!

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  12. We went for number four and ended up with five because we had twins! They're ten now and a huge blessing! Enjoy your sweet and big family! :) Visiting you from the Blogger's Digest.

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